An ex said this to me near the end of our relationship:

This sounds pithy, but with some thought, it is disappointing.

Let me illustrate: you are the common factor in your…

• Successes
• Meals
• Travels
• Relationships (all of them!)

That is what ‘you’ and ‘your’ mean. It’s a tautology.

Using ‘you’ suggests the person is the problem, which isn’t informative or helpful. I think ‘Failure is the common factor in all your failed relationships’ focuses on what to investigate. This distinguishes being from doing, the distinction between ‘I am happy’ and ‘I am feeling happy.’